Who’s Life Will You Live?

Who’s life will you live this year? Will you continue to live the life expected of you by your family and society? Or will you finally begin the journey of living your own life your way? Why should others get to live their lives their way and control the way you live yours? Oh they may have good intentions when you were a child or a young adult but, what about now? Even if you are a young adult what is speaking to you? Who is speaking to you? Where is the tug of war? Study law because your parents want you to be an attorney or become a journalist? Because that is really your heart’s desire. Or are you an adult bound by promises you made to others? Or are you bound by religious training chains? Free yourself. Yep. I said it. Free yourself to live the life that your soul, not your flesh, has been calling you to live.

If you are living other’s expectations of your life, who’s living your life? Ponder the expectations you have for your own life! Oh! This could be the beginning of something new and fresh for you! It could be exciting in spite of the negative opinions and feedback you may get from others who may or may not mean well. Just remember, they are living their lives without your five cents (five not two cents because of inflation ha!). I am not saying throw caution to the wind. Let’s not be foolish. Let’s sit, think, daydream, strategize how we want to live our lives moving forward. What does that look like if you mute the naysayers, controllers, rules and regulations?

But, but, Nikki, you don’t understand! My parents will flip out! My mate will be highly upset! My religious affiliation will wag their finger at me or worse. I do know this. But remember, they are choosing to live their lives the way they want to or if you are religious, the way God called them to and designed for them. They are making a decision to do this or that without your permission or advice. Yes, seek wise counsel but make sure that counsel is unbiased. Maybe they are not living the life they want and they secretly, sadly want you to remain miserable, too. Shocking. I know.

I have a question for you. Who decided your parents life? Was it their parents? I wonder how they felt about it or did they numb themselves and accept it? Do you want to do that, too? Are you doing that? I am a parent. As much as I wanted to control my daughter’s life in the vein of “I know what’s best for my child” I had to realize my child was growing up into an adult. At some point I become a guide or sage but not a dictator. My child has a journey as I do, too. Who is driving your life while you take a back seat or maybe you are in the trunk getting bumped around. Please, don’t tell me Jesus is driving your life because that is not what I am talking about. And you know this. You were given the power of choice along with other powers of light.

Just remember, while forging the life that is calling you, please give others the freedom and respect to live their lives they way it is calling them.

~Nikki