Sunday Morning Coffee Musings: A License to Lose

I almost gave myself a LICENSE TO LOSE this morning. Fight for your right to HOPE. Don’t give yourself a license to lose by:

Apathy (no hope)

Comparison (comparing yourself to others)

Whining and Complaining

SOS STUCK ON THE SAME STORY, telling yourself the same thing over and over

Trying to control and micromanage

Fighting to be RIGHT

Don’t give yourself a license to lose.


Inspired by Iyanla Vanzant

Adversity, Your Friend?

Adversity, trouble, hard times, does not mean the absence of God. ADVERSITY doesn’t mean you’re not going to get the promises for your life or the desires of your heart. Sometimes you have to STAND, SIT, BE STILL, LEAD, or MOVE IN THE MIDST OF ADVERSITY. During adversity, TRUST THE GOD OF THE PROCESS IF YOU CAN’T TRUST THE PROCESS. ADVERSITY is boot camp. ADVERSITY is a battle. ADVERSITY is strength training or the exercise of your STRENGTH. You’ve got this. FLEX. YOU’RE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK!


2022 A “6” Energy

This is the year of a 6 energy. What can we expect from a 6 energy? The number 6 is about several things and I’d like to start by talking about one of the Biblical concepts that it is the number of man (man was created on the 6th day). The 6 energy is about WORK and personal RESPONSIBILITY. This is not the time to be distracted, side tracked, or to be pussy footing around. If you want it, go get it. Work for it. Put in work. This is your time to give it all you’ve got. Man has to work by the sweat of his or her brow and this is sweat equity time. NOTE: That can come in any form.

You can expect to REBUILD in 2022 on top of the foundation laid in 2021. Because of what we have been through, you may want to include rebuilding with reinforcements. If you are thinking business, entrepreneurship, influencer, you may want to think big and be ready to WORK and take RESPONSIBILITY for doing the research and implementing the necessary steps to get it done. THIS IS AN ACTION ORIENTED YEAR. The ACTION coming from YOU and that will create a ripple effect so be careful what you put out there.

I am happy to report the 6 energy is about UNCONDITIONAL LOVE and Repairing or Strengthening Relationships. Relationships of all kinds will play a vital role this year in your life. Pay attention to the lessons you learn. Some will shape you, push you forward, and change you for the better (no matter what it may seem like at the time). Just don’t let anything distract you from your dreams and goals this year. It may have been all about you the past few years but, this year it’s about you and others. Play well with others. Disconnect from some and love at a distance and “with the love of the Lord” with others.

Make people feel loved and appreciated. Encourage as many people as you can. Show up when you can. Make phone calls. Send a thank you text with some detail (Thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to xyz). Let it be known that you value your employees, friends, family, coworkers, strangers. “I appreciate everything that you do for me. I am so glad to have you as my cousin.” Lend a hand and donate to charity. Cook a meal for someone. Send flowers or fresh fruit. (ACTION).

6 is about FAMILY. Oh…family dynamics. You must deal with it. Once and for all and get on with it. If they want to hold on to it let them. You let go and remember, love from a distance if need be. Move around it. On the flip, strengthen those family bonds that you do have. Quality time with loved ones and friends are in order.

You will meet NEW PEOPLE IF you want to that can have an interest in what you are doing or that may have connections for you. This is why I say once again, pay attention to the people that cross your path. But also pay attention to the classes or opportunities that come your way this year. Maybe there is someone at that event or in that class you can make a meaningful connection with. Yes, these events can be online as well. God works in mysterious ZOOM ways, too. I’d highly recommend being INTENTIONAL about where you go and whom you spend your time with this year.

This year is going to balance out. There is going to be some wobbling on the scales because that is how scales are in the natural. (First the natural and then the spiritual). You don’t just sit things on a scale and it doesn’t move back and forth. It has to find its equilibrium. You will have to find your footing several times this year. This year is about EQUILIBRIUM. So, while you are putting in WORK put in as much effort in the PLAY arena. Seek balance. Seek peace.

Speaking of peace, UNITY is in order. If there is any way possible, be the peacemaker, the peacekeeper. Be all about unity this year. WE NEED IT in our country and all across the world. Do it in small ways or big ways. Remember, change starts with you. There’s a heavy pressure in the “community area” of our lives for unity that moves beyond your gated community or neighborhood.

Now, there are some downsides to this energy but, I think you can handle it. You still need and will always need…BOUNDARIES. In this “work hard, be compassionate” era you need to have boundaries in order to have balance, maintain sanity, and safety. Guard your heart (emotions/mind) because out of it flows the rivers of life (everything you do flows from it).

Watch yourself as to not become DOMINATE in your WORK, thoughts, ideas and ideals. Yes, you may be coming from a GOOD place but, everyone will not be ready or agree. You are not here to beat them over the head or to force your love or agenda. Some can become so determined that it becomes dominance and that leads to destroying things and people in your path to get what you want.

There are going to be some little things that you can’t let take over your thoughts this year. You can’t let the small snags hold you down. Rip and keep going or rest. But never give up.

There are going to be some BIG EARTH-SHAKING things going on in the world and possibly in our own personal worlds but, we have been through so much in the last two years, and in our lives (for those of us 30 and up I know), we will find our footing, stabilize, and move forward.

Some justice will be served this year. Some long-time coming things will happen. If you have sown some seeds several years ago there may be some harvest popping up. SEED, TIME, and HARVEST. Harvest comes every year. “As long as the earth endures, seedtime (seed, time) and harvest, cold and heat, summer and winter, day and night will never cease. -Genesis.

I wish you well this year. Protect your health. Eat better and rebuild your immune system with good, healthy food and exercise. Be blessed. Be well. Be good.


The Last Sunday Morning Coffee Musings of 2021: Pack Light

It’s the last SONday SUNday of 2021. My .99 cents, leave whatever that weighs you down, as much as you can, behind. 2022 is a PACK LIGHT JOURNEY because it’s going to be an ACTION-PACKED year. You’ve got to be able to MOVE AROUND without baggage and drama and trauma. You can work on your healing while DOING. Though, it will be tough. Put it and folks in the hands of the Creator so you can get to work on your dreams and visions. Vision boards don’t work unless you do.


Day 9 of Day 12 of My Life Journey 2021: Lessons and Reflections

Sometimes you get the surprise of your life doing the thing you always do. Sometimes you get the surprise of your life doing something different. You see, that’s the thing about GOOD surprises, you never know when they are going to show up.

Every good and perfect (mature, on time) gift comes from the Lord. -The Bible


Day 8 of Day 12 of My Life Journey 2021: Lessons and Reflections

Emotional growth moment: My recovery time for getting over endings is swifter. I appreciate that because I can get on with my life and my work sooner. It doesn’t interfere with my creativity as much. I grew to this point. It was a very, very, long road. It would take months. Sometimes years because I carried those feelings of disappointment, hurt, sadness with me. During therapy, I found out that those who are creative tend to feel things more deeply and take things more personally than others. If you add in factors of people being blamed for things growing up or being the one to carry the responsibility at a young age, it results in feeling totally responsible for things when they don’t go right. In a sense I was carrying what I call and wrote about in my other blog, false guilt.

When you get a chance, give it a read.


Day 5 of Day 12 of My 2021 Journey: Lessons and Reflections

  • Receiving a surprise bouquet of flowers for Valentine’s Day felt amazing
  • Witnessing the death of my oldest brother was devasting and heart wrenching. At that moment what did I feel? I felt that it was over. I felt that it was his will because he was suffering tremendously. Lesson: His will, the will of the person ill, be done and not my will.
  • Grief can severely affect others to the point it becomes unhealthy. It becomes an obsession. It’s best to go to grief counseling if it gets to this point.
  • While we all experience grief in different ways, the burden is easier to carry when you understand death. We are spirits. We are not our bodies.


Me and My Brother Toney

Day 4 of Day 12 of My 2021 Journey: Lessons and Reflections

  • I am only empowered in the NOW. Not in the past or not in the future.
  • Jealousy ruins everything. Including the person, it resides in.
  • People will back wrong doing and support unholiness because it’s family.
  • The actual saying is “the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb”. The meaning of this saying is actually the opposite of the way we use it. The saying actually means that bonds that you’ve made by choice are more important than the people that you are bound to by the water of the womb.


Coffee Cup Cutie by Asiey Barbie

Day 3 of Day 12 of My 2021 Journey: Lessons and Reflections

  • Can’t rush time or growth. It takes time to grow all though you may get the water (lesson) today.
  • Be quiet. Go to or create quiet spaces and just sit there and look intelligent or stupid. Quiet the mind. Be quiet and work. Less responding and more observation.
  • Have a good relationship with the people you say you love. And remember, that relationship doesn’t have to look like other people’s love. They may give more money and you may give more time. They may give better gifts and you may give more thoughtful gifts. They may call every day and you may show up to run errands for them. It doesn’t have to look like their love language. You may have boundaries with that person and others may have none.
  • Noisy, chaotic, toxic, loud, high energy is not a beautiful relationship to me. I like peace. I like calm and I have to that kind of environment. I like spiritual guy. I like a guy with some class and manners. I don’t mind the good ol’ country boy. I just need him to be able to dress up and mix in any environment.