Sunday Morning Coffee Musings: A License to Lose

I almost gave myself a LICENSE TO LOSE this morning. Fight for your right to HOPE. Don’t give yourself a license to lose by:

Apathy (no hope)

Comparison (comparing yourself to others)

Whining and Complaining

SOS STUCK ON THE SAME STORY, telling yourself the same thing over and over

Trying to control and micromanage

Fighting to be RIGHT

Don’t give yourself a license to lose.

~Nikki

Inspired by Iyanla Vanzant

Adversity, Your Friend?

Adversity, trouble, hard times, does not mean the absence of God. ADVERSITY doesn’t mean you’re not going to get the promises for your life or the desires of your heart. Sometimes you have to STAND, SIT, BE STILL, LEAD, or MOVE IN THE MIDST OF ADVERSITY. During adversity, TRUST THE GOD OF THE PROCESS IF YOU CAN’T TRUST THE PROCESS. ADVERSITY is boot camp. ADVERSITY is a battle. ADVERSITY is strength training or the exercise of your STRENGTH. You’ve got this. FLEX. YOU’RE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK!

~Nikki

Sunday Morning Coffee Musings: 2022 and Relationships

2022 comes with UNCONDITIONAL LOVE and Repairing or Strengthening Relationships. Relationships of all kinds will play a vital role this year in your life. Pay attention to the lessons you learn. Some will shape you, push you forward, and change you for the better (no matter what it may seem like at the time). Just don’t let anything distract you from your dreams and goals this year. It may have been all about you the past few years but, this year it’s about you and others. Play well with others. Disconnect from some and love at a distance and “with the love of the Lord” with others.

Make people feel loved and appreciated. Encourage as many people as you can. Show up when you can. Make phone calls. Send a thank you text with some detail (Thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to xyz). Let it be known that you value your employees, friends, family, coworkers, strangers. “I appreciate everything that you do for me. I am so glad to have you as my cousin.” Lend a hand and donate to charity. Cook a meal for someone. Send flowers or fresh fruit. (ACTION).

Oh…family dynamics. You must deal with it. Once and for all and get on with it. If they want to hold on to it let them. You let go and remember, love from a distance if need be. Move around it. On the flip, strengthen those family bonds that you do have. Quality time with loved ones and friends are in order.

You may think this one is a no brainer when it comes to your child or children but, put down the phone or tablet and LOOK at your children’s faces when they are talking to you and when you are talking to them. Maybe the pandemic has made being glued to screens worse. I don’t know but, I do know it is important to LOOK into the eyes of the ones you love, especially your children and give them your undivided attention. They need to be seen and heard. Especially, with the instability of navigating our world.

You will meet NEW PEOPLE IF you want to that can have an interest in what you are doing or that may have connections for you. This is why I say once again, pay attention to the people that cross your path. But also pay attention to the classes or opportunities that come your way this year. Maybe there is someone at that event or in that class you can make a meaningful connection with. Yes, these events can be online as well. God works in mysterious ZOOM ways, too. I’d highly recommend being INTENTIONAL about where you go and whom you spend your time with this year.

~Nikki

2022 A “6” Energy

This is the year of a 6 energy. What can we expect from a 6 energy? The number 6 is about several things and I’d like to start by talking about one of the Biblical concepts that it is the number of man (man was created on the 6th day). The 6 energy is about WORK and personal RESPONSIBILITY. This is not the time to be distracted, side tracked, or to be pussy footing around. If you want it, go get it. Work for it. Put in work. This is your time to give it all you’ve got. Man has to work by the sweat of his or her brow and this is sweat equity time. NOTE: That can come in any form.

You can expect to REBUILD in 2022 on top of the foundation laid in 2021. Because of what we have been through, you may want to include rebuilding with reinforcements. If you are thinking business, entrepreneurship, influencer, you may want to think big and be ready to WORK and take RESPONSIBILITY for doing the research and implementing the necessary steps to get it done. THIS IS AN ACTION ORIENTED YEAR. The ACTION coming from YOU and that will create a ripple effect so be careful what you put out there.

I am happy to report the 6 energy is about UNCONDITIONAL LOVE and Repairing or Strengthening Relationships. Relationships of all kinds will play a vital role this year in your life. Pay attention to the lessons you learn. Some will shape you, push you forward, and change you for the better (no matter what it may seem like at the time). Just don’t let anything distract you from your dreams and goals this year. It may have been all about you the past few years but, this year it’s about you and others. Play well with others. Disconnect from some and love at a distance and “with the love of the Lord” with others.

Make people feel loved and appreciated. Encourage as many people as you can. Show up when you can. Make phone calls. Send a thank you text with some detail (Thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to xyz). Let it be known that you value your employees, friends, family, coworkers, strangers. “I appreciate everything that you do for me. I am so glad to have you as my cousin.” Lend a hand and donate to charity. Cook a meal for someone. Send flowers or fresh fruit. (ACTION).

6 is about FAMILY. Oh…family dynamics. You must deal with it. Once and for all and get on with it. If they want to hold on to it let them. You let go and remember, love from a distance if need be. Move around it. On the flip, strengthen those family bonds that you do have. Quality time with loved ones and friends are in order.

You will meet NEW PEOPLE IF you want to that can have an interest in what you are doing or that may have connections for you. This is why I say once again, pay attention to the people that cross your path. But also pay attention to the classes or opportunities that come your way this year. Maybe there is someone at that event or in that class you can make a meaningful connection with. Yes, these events can be online as well. God works in mysterious ZOOM ways, too. I’d highly recommend being INTENTIONAL about where you go and whom you spend your time with this year.

This year is going to balance out. There is going to be some wobbling on the scales because that is how scales are in the natural. (First the natural and then the spiritual). You don’t just sit things on a scale and it doesn’t move back and forth. It has to find its equilibrium. You will have to find your footing several times this year. This year is about EQUILIBRIUM. So, while you are putting in WORK put in as much effort in the PLAY arena. Seek balance. Seek peace.

Speaking of peace, UNITY is in order. If there is any way possible, be the peacemaker, the peacekeeper. Be all about unity this year. WE NEED IT in our country and all across the world. Do it in small ways or big ways. Remember, change starts with you. There’s a heavy pressure in the “community area” of our lives for unity that moves beyond your gated community or neighborhood.

Now, there are some downsides to this energy but, I think you can handle it. You still need and will always need…BOUNDARIES. In this “work hard, be compassionate” era you need to have boundaries in order to have balance, maintain sanity, and safety. Guard your heart (emotions/mind) because out of it flows the rivers of life (everything you do flows from it).

Watch yourself as to not become DOMINATE in your WORK, thoughts, ideas and ideals. Yes, you may be coming from a GOOD place but, everyone will not be ready or agree. You are not here to beat them over the head or to force your love or agenda. Some can become so determined that it becomes dominance and that leads to destroying things and people in your path to get what you want.

There are going to be some little things that you can’t let take over your thoughts this year. You can’t let the small snags hold you down. Rip and keep going or rest. But never give up.

There are going to be some BIG EARTH-SHAKING things going on in the world and possibly in our own personal worlds but, we have been through so much in the last two years, and in our lives (for those of us 30 and up I know), we will find our footing, stabilize, and move forward.

Some justice will be served this year. Some long-time coming things will happen. If you have sown some seeds several years ago there may be some harvest popping up. SEED, TIME, and HARVEST. Harvest comes every year. “As long as the earth endures, seedtime (seed, time) and harvest, cold and heat, summer and winter, day and night will never cease. -Genesis.

I wish you well this year. Protect your health. Eat better and rebuild your immune system with good, healthy food and exercise. Be blessed. Be well. Be good.

~Nikki

Sunday Morning Coffee Musings: How It Started

I was looking forward to New Year’s Eve for several reasons but, the main reason was I finally, wouldn’t be spending it alone. After a pretty good day that joyous mood would be crushed by him. Some sort of mix up, misunderstanding, miscommunication. WHATEVER. I tried to smooth things over for him so that he wouldn’t feel bad by saying it was okay and offering a solution. The problem with that is Ioncw again put my feelings to the side. Did anyone care that I was I feeling bad? Did I care?

I did not want to be disappointed and I tried to work with it and I tried to work against it. But the TRUTH continued to be magnified with signs such as no communication during a pivotal time frame, an ignored text and phone call, and the polite, “Happy New Year” text he sent. That’s it. That is the gist of it. The TRUTH amplified in the form of anxiety and I was unable to rest even with medication.

This was NOT how I wanted to spend New Year’s Eve. This was NOT how I wanted to wake up on New Year’s Day with lingering sadness and an uneasiness in my spirit. I did not want to spend the day trying to be alright. I did not want to spend the day trying to unravel and get to the core of things so I could be alright. I knew exactly what was happening. I know this is my personal year of 9 and the ending of a 9-year cycle. This is more about endings than it is about beginnings. However, the beginnings, though few, are monarch.

This year is centered around the heart. Before you can connect to the heart, you need a heart cleansing. If not, the connection will not be clean. It will be shoddy. It will be static. It will be on and off. There I was Saturday trying to connect to heart meditation without a cleansing. “Create in me a clean heart and renew in me a right spirit” is a scripture from the Bible. This is similar to a heart chakra cleanse. Growing up Christian this scripture usually was used when sin was talked about or an evil spirit. I can’t help but to think how that only scratches the surface.

The heart can be filled with sadness, anger, disappointment, anxiety, worry, depression, confusion and the remnants of these things or debris of the past. The wrong spirit could be any of those things. It is not necessarily that of evil or sin. So, as the heart is “CLEANsed” the renewing of the spirit takes place. The alignment of spirit takes place. I also believe you have to participate in your healing. There is work involved.

What did I have to do to get to an understanding and to align my spirit? I certainly couldn’t rush the process. I wanted to feel better. QUICKLY. SO, I wanted to skip the heart cleanse and just connect to heart happy. No. 1 hour and 11 minutes into a heart chakra cleanse and typing this I “felt” some clearing. My heart space felt a little lighter. I felt some strength and some HELP coming on. Cleansing the heart can be praying, listening to the RIGHT kind of music, binaural beats, journaling, therapy, chatting with a friend, crying, laughing, etc. This is the creating of a clean heart and the refreshing of spirit. The uplifting or alignment of spirit. The conjunction “AND” means they work together.

Above is one of the frequencies of music I play low in the background as I go about my morning or day. Sometimes I lay down and listen for 20 minutes. I also pray for help and this is the guidance “I” was given. In the words of Mary, the mother of Jesus, “Do what he tells YOU to do.” Your activity may look different from mine and that is okay.

~Nikki

The Last Sunday Morning Coffee Musings of 2021: Pack Light

It’s the last SONday SUNday of 2021. My .99 cents, leave whatever that weighs you down, as much as you can, behind. 2022 is a PACK LIGHT JOURNEY because it’s going to be an ACTION-PACKED year. You’ve got to be able to MOVE AROUND without baggage and drama and trauma. You can work on your healing while DOING. Though, it will be tough. Put it and folks in the hands of the Creator so you can get to work on your dreams and visions. Vision boards don’t work unless you do.

~Nikki

Day 9 of Day 12 of My Life Journey 2021: Lessons and Reflections

Sometimes you get the surprise of your life doing the thing you always do. Sometimes you get the surprise of your life doing something different. You see, that’s the thing about GOOD surprises, you never know when they are going to show up.

Every good and perfect (mature, on time) gift comes from the Lord. -The Bible

~Nikki

Day 8 of Day 12 of My Life Journey 2021: Lessons and Reflections

Emotional growth moment: My recovery time for getting over endings is swifter. I appreciate that because I can get on with my life and my work sooner. It doesn’t interfere with my creativity as much. I grew to this point. It was a very, very, long road. It would take months. Sometimes years because I carried those feelings of disappointment, hurt, sadness with me. During therapy, I found out that those who are creative tend to feel things more deeply and take things more personally than others. If you add in factors of people being blamed for things growing up or being the one to carry the responsibility at a young age, it results in feeling totally responsible for things when they don’t go right. In a sense I was carrying what I call and wrote about in my other blog, false guilt. https://nikkisconfettilife.com/2021/03/22/sunday-morning-coffee-musings-carry-false-guilt/

When you get a chance, give it a read.

~Nikki

Day 7 of Day 12 of My Life Journey 2021: Lessons and Reflections

Emotional Truth. Tell yourself the emotional truth about yourself and to the necessary person. Ask for the emotional truth to be revealed when you need it to be. And when it is revealed, accept it. Head on. I know it may hurt or be disappointing. It may even be surprising and a beautiful thing. The emotional truth is how you TRULY feel or how another person TRULY feels about you or a situation. You need to know the truth and you need to tell yourself the truth about your feelings so that you may be able to deal with them effectively.

~Nikki