Divine Whispers: This Isn’t About You

If you’re the main character in your own story, then you are probably just another character in someone else’s story. You could be the one that tries to warn others but, in their story, you are the one that thinks they know everything or the one that is always trying to tell someone what to do. You may not see yourself as this but, perhaps they do. Maybe you are the antagonist in their story. Maybe you are the trusted friend. The point is you are part of other people’s story and what is going on isn’t (so much) about you.

As I was packing for my trip, preparing, I heard, “This isn’t about you.” I did think this was about me. I mean, I know I don’t control the major worldly events but, I do impact others (positively, neutral or negatively). I don’t control what others do with their lives or the choices they make or have made. I do have some control over my own world. My thoughts, my emotions, my responses and reactions, my choices and decisions are all means of control. But I wanted to know WHY was THIS or THESE things happening TO ME. (Oh and after I had a series of unfortunate events flying out from my city, arriving at the hotel only to be charged twice for a stay, I completely lost it in the bathroom of my suite shared with my daughter. THAT was about me.)

Back to the matter at hand. There are some things in life that greatly impact you but, it’s not about you. It’s about the other characters in the story. You receive the backlash. You are part of the fall out, the drama, and maybe the trauma but, this isn’t your story. When I first heard, “This isn’t about you” I wanted to beg to differ. But as I took a closer look, I can see how this is not my story. And in some way I can’t really explain, I felt some relief. I felt as if I didn’t have to try so hard to be everywhere, to be everything, to resolve it all. I didn’t have to fight so hard because main characters needed to fight, too. They need to change or not change ever. They are, just like you and I, the main characters with quite a bit of control of their own lives.

I also learned that making everything and other people’s lives about me only causes me great grief and monumental distractions. It’s not the kind of make things about you so that one can be the star of the center of attention. No, no. It’s about some wound that says, “Everything is your fault and then I feel the need to get involved in a “I’m all in” type of way because how else can “I” fix it. How else can the inner child in me be accepted, loved, validated? How else can I earn God’s favor and good grace?

“Dear Nikki, this isn’t about you. This is about people that you love. And you hate to see people that you love and the things that you love go through so much turmoil. One, because you are an empath by design and two, you have been taught that when something isn’t right within the proximity of YOU, it’s your fault if you don’t somehow make it right. Even if you had nothing to do with it you feel obligated to fix it. And there are some things, many things, you cannot fix for the people you love and care about it. It’s not your story. You do have a role but, it’s not the main character. You must learn when it isn’t your scene. And when it is not, go to your trailer or mingle with others. Go home. Go about “your” business (life purposes and soul mission). Send them love and light, prayers, and well wishes because what you can’t do fix everything so that others will be happy and then you will be happy, too. But you will have to learn to be happy and to be saddened by others situation at the same time. Yeah, two things can be true at the same time.”

Love, Nikki ~