Self-love requires CHANGE and CHANGE is HARD WORK. It’s easier to stay the same and say “What? This is just the way I am.” If the way you are is not a reflection of love or self-love, is it really the way you are or just the way you have grown accustomed to being and responding?
You might have to change and expand circles. You may lose a few friends or you may have to make new friends. You may be alone for a while. And though you are loyal, it means nothing if you are loyal to people who don’t respect or value you or use you. If they are using your mind, they are using you. If they are using your heart and emotions, they are using you. If they are using your body, they are using you. Change is hard work. Self-love requires change.
~Nikki
Nikki's Confetti Life 
Alan Watts
The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.