You Won’t Miss Out. But, What If You Do?

Yesterday, I talked about secretly wishing things would fall apart or not work out. Today, I want you to know that there is peace in knowing you that you will not miss out on what is meant for you. In this society there is a fear of missing out on all of the things you SEE on social media. There has always been a fear of missing out on what you think is meant for you. Missed opportunities and failed relationships come to mind. But what if they really were meant for you and you missed out? What if it doesn’t come around again?

I think you have to find a way to create your own opportunity for something you missed that was truly for you if it’s not going to come around again. Let’s say I missed the opportunity to study literature and become a poet because I was drafted to war. I came home and became a pastor and had a family. I had to work. I didn’t have time to go back. Well, what if I decided to write poems anyway? What if I pursued having it published? Maybe, that is my way of creating an opportunity for myself. Or maybe writing and speaking at a spoken word event? Hence, fulfilling some part of my dream or just writing and sharing it for the love of it.

When it comes to job opportunities missed, perhaps it really wasn’t meant for you and something better will come along. It’s all about perspective. Relationships are a little more tricky. I have lived long enough to see some relationships I wanted or missed to see the individual now and realized, I was dodging a bullet. And just because you see someone you turned down thriving in a relationship does not mean that could have been you! You are not who he or she is with! So, you don’t if it would have worked out. Since you don’t know, don’t dwell on it. Wonder and let it go. I recently saw a guy I adored and I could tell the chemistry was still there and then I remembered how he really is. How strict, rule abiding, thoughts on women as it relates to religion and leadership, and I quickly sobered up from a fantasy of what if. I would have been unhappy!

I didn’t miss him or anyone or anything that was not meant for me. And in the case of if it was meant for me and indeed I did miss it, then I best to be prepared the next time or create an opportunity. Once again, it’s all about perspective. Did you miss out? How will you come to peace about it? One thing that haunts me today is wondering what would my life be like if I’d become the fashion designer I always wanted to be? Will I ever know and is being creative in other areas filling that void?

~Nikki