Self-love is reflecting on your behavior and modifying it. This means you must think about why you did what you did, said what you said, and allow what you allow. You might have to get some help from a therapist to help you to help yourself. Yep. Self-love is hard work.
~Nikki
Nikki's Confetti Life 
No kidding self love is hard work. But so is self loathing. I mean if done correctly. I could always do that correctly.