Imagine my surprise when my therapist said to me, “Nicole, it’s not always about you. However, we should delve into why you seem to think it is always about you.” I was stunned! However, I was not stunned when we began to talk about my insecurities and were they stemmed from. I have had some moments in my life where I thought it should have been about me and moments where I discovered it wasn’t about me. It wasn’t personal. And sometimes it has been personal. How do you know the difference? I think you need critical thinking, intelligence, good rationale and cognitive skills. Wisdom as well.

My insecurities stem from being raised with one parent having major psychological issues. My insecurities come from being bullied and some very bad relationships. But I thank God for the deepening of our relationship, books, therapy, elders, gurus, and sages that have helped me to heal, to grow, and to grow up. I worked hard on my self-esteem and I still have issues with it from time to time.

Insecurity is not the only reason a person makes things all about them.

• Narcissistic tendencies:People with narcissistic traits often exhibit this behavior, believing they are the most important person in the conversation and needing constant validation. 
• Attention seeking:Making everything about oneself can be a way to gain attention and feel less alone, especially if someone feels like they are often overlooked. 
• Low self-esteem:Sometimes, this behavior can stem from underlying low self-esteem, where individuals use self-centered conversations as a way to feel better about themselves. 
• Inability to empathize:People who constantly make things about them may struggle to see things from others’ perspectives, focusing primarily on their own experiences.

Check out this article from Psychology Today to learn more!

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/handy-hints-for-humans/201603/all-about-me#:~:text=Narcissism,-4%20Min%20Read&text=The%20most%20important%20person%20in,a%20narcissist%20is%20the%20narcissist.

~Nikki