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What to Do When It’s a Friend or Loved One w/Anxiety or Depression Pt. 4 You’re a Judge?

Avoid judgment

Nobody likes feeling judged. Someone facing a difficult situation as a result of their actions may have done some self-judgment already.

Regardless, when seeking support, people generally don’t want to hear a critique — even if you offer constructive criticism with the best of intentions.

When offering support, try to keep your opinions on what they should have done or where they went wrong to yourself.

Avoid asking questions they might interpret as blaming or judgmental, such as, “So what made them so mad at you?”

Even if you don’t offer any direct judgment or criticism, tone can convey a lot of emotion, so your voice might share emotions you didn’t intend to say outright.

Take care to keep notes of disapproval out of your voice by focusing on feelings like sympathy and compassion when you speak.

https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/emotional-support#avoid-judgment

~Nikki

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  1. nirajshah2003 Avatar
    nirajshah2003

    Thanks for sharing!

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  2. Rick Phillips Avatar
    Rick Phillips

    Sometimes however, I just want to reach out and slap them into reality. I know, no violence and no judgement. But darn man stop doing the same thing and asking for different outcomes. Or, talk to the hand, because I stopped listening.

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    1. Nikki Avatar
      Nikki

      Are you talking about a person that has anxiety or depression? Because this is what I am talking about. Seems like you have a person that is making the same mistakes and choices over and over and not a person that has anxiety or depression.

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      1. Rick Phillips Avatar
        Rick Phillips

        No not anxiety and depression. More like I did it again and then I am so sorry I promote I won’t do it again. Crying how hurt they while they explain why some unknown force made them do it.

      2. Nikki Avatar
        Nikki

        Oh I see. Well, if they ever ask you for advice or what to do I would ask them 1. Why do they think they keep doing the same thing over and over again? (Don’t take I don’t know for an answer) 2. Why do they think they will get different results if it hasn’t worked the last 100 times? (Don’t take I don’t know for an answer) 3. Tell them Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Tell them nothing will change unless they change their actions and you are done talking about it. But, when they are ready to initiate change then you are there to help.

  3. Hallie Orton Avatar
    Hallie Orton

    Love this!! I post similar content, feel free to check my page out. 🙂

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    1. Nikki Avatar
      Nikki

      I sure will!

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  4. Trippy tp Avatar
    Trippy tp

    Avoid judgement🤞🤞

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