There is something about growth that I HATE when it comes to letting a relationship go or it letting me go. That part is “feeling sad”. No one enjoys it I know. But I am speaking about when you have already learned the lesson (s) and you are ready to move on BUT you can’t because here comes a thought, a memory, an instinct, a knee jerk response to pick up the phone and call their number. Then you are like, “Oh. Yeah. Can’t do that.” But I’ve got the lessons for me this time around:
- Sometimes second chances don’t work out.
- It wasn’t a waste of your time because your intentions were clear, pure, and true.
- You learned to respect a person’s right to not feel the way you feel and to bow out (maybe not so gracefully but, hey as well as expected). This is your GREATEST LESSON.
- Sometimes the friendship within the relationship also comes to an end.
I understand. Now, let’s move on. Well, not so fast. And why not? Because you can’t rush time and you can’t rush growth. It’s like a plant and you can’t rush the growth of the plant after you have watered it. Even after you get the lesson, like water, it has to soak in. It has to get to the root. I’m ready to not feel sadness or loneliness but, it’s not happening as quickly as I would like it to. So, let’s soak it in with affirmations:
- I am worthy of a love that flows freely from the heart
- I am loved deeply and eternally by my twin flame soul mate
- I am worthy of being a priority
- I am worthy of a rich friendship within my relationship
SOAK IT UP. SOAK IT IN. LET IT GET TO THE ROOTS and SOAK IN THE SUN. AND JUST SIT THERE LIKE A PLANT. AND BE PATIENT. Affirmations or just the truth, is the water!
I keep checking on my plants as I am learning gardening on the fly. All of the plants I planted with the exception of the elephant ears were already in a bloomed state. I check on my plants almost every day and I am disappointed when I don’t see a sign of the elephant ears blooming but, I am pleased to see some of the other plants thriving. When I do see growth, I am shocked because it seems as if it wasn’t there yesterday or the day before! One day, I am sure I will notice the sadness has disappeared and the memories aren’t as vivid. They don’t come with pain or loneliness. WOW! GROWTH! When did you get here? Never mind that! Welcome!
2 thoughts on “Sunday Morning Coffee Musings: Are We Done Yet or Are We Finished?”
Growth !! We don need no stinkin growth !! Oh of course we need growth. At least that is what my wife tells me. Oh and you know I agree with her. Cause I am scared of her. She often says grow up damn it.
I think she knows I am scared of her.
Hey dont laugh, you would be as well. if you saw her eyes narrow like I have.
Not the narrowing of the eyes! LOL