When Nehemiah heard about the ruined wall of Jerusalem, he wept. (pause) I just want to let that sit there. He cried. It’s okay to cry!
Yet, he rebuilt the walls of the city by using the remnants of the wall he had left and by strengthening those who remained (Neh 1:3-4, 2:17-20).
He took what was left, the remnants, the leftovers, and by strengthening those who survived, they rebuilt the wall. I know, I know, some of us have been destroyed. Our hearts have been broken. We have taken some big hits. Things from out of nowhere. After you weep. You have got to strengthen what remains of your heart, your money, your life, the church, and rebuild.
What do you do when you’ve suffered a great loss? When you’ve lost sight of your purpose? When your joy or your faith isn’t what it used to be?
You wake up from your slumber, arise to the voice of God, turn your attention to what you have left, and begin the faith process of strengthening that which remains.
~Nikki
Nikki's Confetti Life 
What do I do when I’ve suffered a great loss? I find healing by helping others to heal. People tell me that’s denial by not dealing directly with the pain. But I know me. I can’t heal if I don’t move outside of that loss. So do more charitable things to take my mind off of it.
I agree. I believe helping others helps us to heal.