I can make things more complicated than it needs to be at times by doing things I really don’t want to do. I then become agitated and my mood is apparent to those around me. I should note, this is only around family events or outings with people that have big negative energy. I don’t want to be there because of the attitudes and difficult personalities that may be present. I think of going to a restaurant or concert as an enjoyable event. I look forward to good times but, some people can suck life out of that.
So, what do you do when you really don’t want to go but, it’s a nice gesture? You know it’s coming from a genuine place but you just don’t want to “deal” with the complaining. I didn’t handle the situation well at all! In retrospect, I realized I needed to learn how to not let the mood of others complaining and to enjoy the outing better. I thought maybe I can redirect the conversation to more positive things. Maybe, I can counter act a “Eww this is not good and this is not that and ugh what’s taking so long?” with “My vegetables taste delicious. The food will be hot and fresh when it comes out.”
I need to accept, and keep accepting that some things will never change and I need to be able to deal better in a certain environment. I’m making things worse by adding my attitude to the mix.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference, living one day at a time; enjoying one moment at a time; taking this world as it is and not as I would have it; trusting that You will make all things right if I surrender to Your will; so that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with You forever in the next. Amen.
− Reinhold Niebuhr