YOU: Working on Your Creativity and Relationships

I admit. I wasn’t thrilled about the “working on your relationships” part of this because well, I don’t know, I guess I thought about romantic relationships, which I lack. And then even worse, I thought about the relationships with people that I don’t have a good relationship with. It’s just okay. Oh and I thought about how I am always the one trying to “work on things with people” and “work things out” and this is the subtleness of people pleasing. AND JUST NO. NO! (Imagine me shivering for dramatic effects).

Here is the tea and the coffee, the 4-1-1-, some relationships will be ending and some will begin. That relationship that begins may be the one you have with yourself. There are some personal relationships, family relationships if you will, that you have already worked on and they are what they are. They are decent. Cordial. And perhaps, like me, you are okay with that. They may the ones attempting to work on their relationship with you! Surprise! (Heck, I know I was when I got that revelation). Cautiously and graciously, expecting nothing is how I have decided to move if and when this occurs. You must seek your own way, listen to the Holy One and your intuition.

Let’s expand, there are business relationships and career relationships that will need some maintenance or negotiation (re-negotiation). Read the fine print! And new partnerships and friendships can be formed this year.

Now, let’s get to this creativity. Are you tired of people telling you to find a hobby or something that interests you? Is it because you haven’t found anything? Well, this is the time to try something. Say yes to some invitations. Say yes to a class at the community center or local college.

Improve on something you are already creative in. Learn something new. Expand. Doodle. Color. Draw. Paint. It doesn’t matter if you can or can’t. Build. Craft. Decorate. Write. Garden. The most frustrating my neighbor across the street said to me when I asked her how do I get my flower bed to look as pretty as hers was when she responded, “Just get in there. You will learn from your mistakes!” The result of her beautiful yard was born out of plenty of errors. I hate messing up. I hate mistakes. I used to be so hard on myself because as a child my imperfections, my mistakes, my not measuring up were pointed out to be on every turn and no matter what I did it wasn’t good enough. But I have learned to extend the same grace to myself as I do to others. It’s okay. I had to learn that making mistakes are part of life and most can be corrected, forgiven, and if chosen, you grow.

So here is to working on creativity and relationships!

~Nikki