Women. You don’t have time for BOYS.

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I remember my parents telling me when I was in school “Your education comes first. You don’t have time for boys.” I can’t say I always listened to this instruction but, I can say it always came back to me. I tell my daughter to focus on her education while she is in school and eventually, college and not on boys. This is the time to figure out what makes you happy and what you enjoy. In other words, don’t make boys your priority. Impress yourself.

Well, as a woman, I want to tell you, I still don’t have time for boys. However, I do have time for men. I don’t have time for boys for different reasons other than education and trying to figure out what makes me happy and what I enjoy ( I was a late bloomer in that area and I am still figuring some things out). When you are mature in your emotions, when you are working towards achieving a more fulfilling life, be it socially, emotionally, physically, etc you don’t have time for boys. Boys will jerk your emotions around. Boys will destabilize your foundation. Boys will waste your time. Boys will play games. Boys don’t know what they want. They are still trying to figure out their role as a man. Sure they work. Sure some have financial goals but when it comes to relationships I find boys are still in it for selfish gain. I find men are in it for the satisfaction of themselves and their partner. I think you can be a man in many areas but a boy in other areas. I think the same about women. We can be a woman about our financial affairs but, a girl when it comes to what we allow in a relationship. What I mean by both of those statements is it comes down to growth and maturity. When you were a child, you acted like a child but when you became an adult, you should have or at least be aggressively working on putting away childish motives, attitudes, actions, fears and phobias.

Let me clarify this: I have time for men, who may be boys in an area but, are doing their best to grow in the area of love and relationships. However, I can’t allow the repeated abuse of my heart.

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Dangerously in Love Pt 2

psychotic
The state of being obsessed with SOMEONE or something. An idea or thought that CONTINUALLY preoccupies or intrudes on a person’s MIND.
“I love you” now tell me you love me too. Text: I love you every hour on the hour. Your mind is gone and it is NOT HEALTHY. This obsession with a person and love is not love it is an obsession with the idea of a person being perfect for you when they are either far from that or you fear losing them like you “think”  you lost the rest of them. You didn’t lose them you lost yourself. You must constantly be in contact even while you are on your job or they are on their job. You must be in contact with them when they are with their friends and family. If they don’t say anything or call you berate them with numerous texts and phone calls. God forbid they don’t respond or call. You damn near lose your mind. The truth is YOU HAVE ALREADY LOST YOUR MIND.
Your behavior is not ATTRACTIVE and it REPELS a person far away from you. They can’t wait to get away. It was cute at first until they realize it is DANGEROUS. A person that remains with you is either with you out of fear that you will do something to them or yourself, they feel sorry for you and they want to help you or they themselves feel the need to be wanted in such an unhealthy manner because of their own issues.
Obsession is a sign that you need help. You need professional help. You need divine intervention. You are a runaway train with no breaks headed for self destruction damaging not only yourself but everything in your path. This is not love. Obsession is the bridge to violence against yourself and others. When the object of your obsession no longer wants you…then what?
#DangerouslyInLove #DangerouslyDestructive