Consider the Listening Ear

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Everyone needs someone to listen to them, to share their issues with. Just be mindful not to share those issues every day. It becomes more like a dumping than a sharing of the load. -Nicole Jackson

Sunday Morning Coffee Musings: Yin and Yang

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Have you ever had a week where it seems as if as much good news you received, you would receive some bad news as well? You are happy and sad, joyful and concerned. Mixed emotions. How can I be upset when this very good thing happened? How can I be happy when this sad thing happened?

The Yin Yang symbol or concept is that everything in the universe has two opposing forces, yet complimentary to each other. The symbol itself has specific meaning from it’s circular appearance to the way the black and white intertwines. One aspect of this symbol and concept is that one thing dominates for a time and then it is replaced by something else that dominates. Such as Life and Death. Also the black circle in the white part of the symbol and the white circle in the black part is an interaction of each force in all things.

We experience the Yin and Yang in life on a more noticeable level during some periods of our lives. For me it was this week as I made great strides towards advocating for myself with my doctors and nurses. I had breakthroughs concerning a particular ordeal. And then I was dealt some blows. My emotions were pulled in many directions as I was rejoicing, feeling optimistic and also feeling aggravated and concerned. I could say “Oh just focus on the good” and while that sounds logical and spiritual, I thought I should just “feel” until things mellow out. You know how a scale moves until the things placed on it of equal weight balances out? Yeah, I think that is what needed to happen. So this morning, I am balanced in my emotions through the process. I revel in advancements made and I take care of the necessary trouble brewing.

~Nikki

 

Kim K the Human Being

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I know you have heard in recent news that Kim Kardashian was robbed in Paris, tied up, and locked in the bathroom. The media is now saying the robbers probably tracked her movements as she documented them on social media or perhaps it was an inside job.

Let’s first get something clear: I am one of the few that may be neutral when it come to Kim K. I don’t love or hate her or the Kardashians. Honestly, I am pretty neutral about most people in general. And maybe there are some people I just don’t like because of their behavior or character or personality. You know, some people just rub you the wrong way and well you have to deal with. But, that does not mean I dislike them enough to not care or rejoice if something terrible happens to them or to not help them if I could. Trust me, if we are all in a tragedy, no one is deciding who to rescue based on wealth, race, sexual preference or religion. I hope not.

Some were saying the robbery was a publicity stunt. I understand why they would say this because when you and I do mean anyone, do things to get attention from the media, people tend to think everything that you say and do is for attention. They can’t decipher the difference. Positive or negative. Perhaps that is a lesson we all can learn from.

After, it was found to be true, some were like so what. Who cares. That is what she gets. And now it is being said she posted her jewelry and whereabouts on social media, people are saying it’s her fault. She shouldn’t have done that.

Here is my perspective: If you strip away her wealth, her beauty, her name, her designer clothes and she was just a woman married to a black guy with two children would you think those things? Perhaps, the only thing you would have thought was she should not have posted her every move or jewelry, money. And even in that truth, it doesn’t give evil the right to take what she has. In a sense, if a candy shop advertises candy, it doesn’t give a thief the right to steal it. Gee, they should have put that candy away. Many times people that are in your own neighborhood or will come to you neighborhood looking to do harm. I don’t have 1% of Kim’s wealth…wait, .5% of her wealth, and my home was broken into twice and I felt fear, anger, sadness and it took away my peace of mind for a very long time. I thought to myself, thank God my daughter and I were not there. My child had to sleep in my room for almost a month. Every time I heard a noise I got up. I dreamed about someone breaking it over and over. When I moved to the new place I was still afraid. The second time my home was invaded, I knew for sure that it was a neighbor.

I don’t ever want to be robbed with a gun to my head, begging for my life, tied up and left in a bathroom, closet, field, wherever. I can feel fear rising in me at just the thought of never seeing my daughter and family again. So, I say all of this to say, you haven’t reached the spiritual maturity to see a human being more like you in that sense and separate what they do, their wealth or lack of, their political preferences, gender, sex, race etc…from that. Fear is fear no matter who is experiencing. Wealth doesn’t make you fearless. A scary experience or life threatening experience is not less scary or life threatening if your last name is Kennedy or Doe.Wealthy tears aren’t less salty than a man on the street who has lost everything tears. I don’t wish anyone to have to learn a lesson in such a way their life is put in danger.

~Nikki

 

Bad Energy Family Members. Bingo! You’re It!

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Let’s cut to the chase. Maybe you don’t know YOU are the bad energy toting family member. Here are clues and what your energy does to others who don’t know how, don’t have the heart or guts to confront you.

Certain family members no longer show up or limit their time in your space because they can’t deal with your behavior
You’ve been asked several times to tone it down but you don’t because you don’t see anything wrong
You can’t wait to get a rise out of a particular family member. Even though they’ve told you to stop
You feel good when you make other people upset or you think nothing about it
You refuse to apologize for embarrassing family members
Family members cringe at your off colored, off putting remarks and you go “What?”
You get offended and defensive when confronted about your behavior
Deep down inside you know you have a problem and your behavior is a problem but you don’t have the courage to admit it and tackle the real issues behind your mean spirit
You say “So what. Others are too sensitive. Lighten up!”

Your behavior:
Affects the mood of every family event
Makes others feel demeaned in an environment they should feel uplifted
Makes others feel constricted because they have to avoid you at all cost
Makes others feel attacked when they should feel love
Makes others ill when you arrive
Makes others feel rushed because they know they can’t stay long and enjoy other family because they can’t take your bad energy

Figure out what the real problem is in your private life. Take a good look in the mirror at what you do and what you say and ask yourself why can’t you stop doing the things that cause harm and rifts in the family? Rather it’s a coming to Jesus, Self or Therapist moment, I hope you build up the nerve to come. As you are.

~Nikki

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