I got my hair cut. Gone. Chopped. It was the first week in January and it was a decision made over years. I like it and that’s what matters the most! I have to care for it and no one else. My hair wasn’t damaged, but I felt like I needed to start fresh. It was a burden trying to do my hair with Rheumatoid Arthritis and not having the funds to go to a salon regularly. So doing it myself was a task that many natural hair girls understand and it was a task on top of a task with my hands, arms, wrists, and fingers.
I am learning to maintain this style. It’s easier to wash and detangle. I still have to twist it, but it’s not too bad. I guess because the hair is shorter! People are so opinionated about what we do to our hair. I could never understand why so much fuss about my hair or our hair. How superficial we can be! How obnoxious and even discriminatory we can be as human beings. Over…hair! I often find people think you should fit into their culture or subscribe to their definition of beauty. It’s very closed minded to think your culture should set the standard for all of humanity and it’s beauty. It took me some time to love my hair. My natural hair growing out of my head. You know, like your natural hair growing out of your head. It’s mines. God gave it to me. It’s up to me what I do with it and not you.
WOW! What a weekend! I met one of my favorite, most influential authors of all time and got the last book of a series signed. I met Kimberla Lawson Roby! It was her book Casting the First Stone that led me to believe it was possible to be a Christian and still write novels with a spiritual undertone. My novels may be a bit more unconventional as far as most Christians would think, but I am not really concerned about that! I have my own path to take. Anyway, I was over the moon and treasure the book and the moment. My daughter was there to help me stand in a very long line. Some day I’ll be signing books!
I also went out for cocktails and small plates with…brace yourself, my daughter’s father mother….and his wife. Yep. You read that right. As a single parent, the road has not always been easy and neither are the relationships involved with raising my daughter. Some of our thoughts, actions, and ways are different and well that makes for conflicts of interests. It was extremely rough starting out, but we try to get along and sitting down with all of together was a miracle within itself. Conversation, cocktails, and food made it a pleasant outing.
Oh, yeah. I got a new hairstyle! Lol! I think it may last for a few weeks. Natural hair can be a challenge. Especially, for someone like me who has Rheumatoid Disease and Fibromyalgia. Which took a toll on me by the time Sunday rolled around. I felt so bad, but I am grateful for the two days, Friday and Saturday, in which I had little discomfort. Sunday was very difficult and I am feeling better on today. I hope you enjoyed your weekend, too!
Well, if you have been following my blog you may know that I have Rheumatoid Diseases & Fibromyalgia. BUT, that will not stop be from being the fashionista I’ve always been. Trust, I get it from my mama! You don’t have to look like what you’re going through and you don’t have to spend a fortune or take 3 hours for make up! I just can’t! Not with these hands, arms, shoulders, and you get the picture!
Well, my nephew had a birthday party last Friday at the bowling lanes. It was a last minute decision for me to go. I quickly had to do something with my hair and with natural hair on a bad hair day it was a quick top knot. My lipstick is by Maybelline and the name of it is Violet Vixen. Of course eyebrows and mascara were applied but, no eye shadow. I always choose lipstick and mascara when I am in a rush. Done!
I needed comfortable shoes so I chose my black and white Nikes. I searched my closet for my black and white purse that was given to me years ago. And well there you have it. Oh yeah, the blouse is one I bought on clearance at Target. It’s in under my tab Fashion Confetti in another post.
I love to go makeup dumpster diving! You walk in to get groceries and there in the middle of the aisle and a shining light from a makeup angel in heaven…ah yes, divine intervention! lol
I got this Maybelline lipstick, violet vixen 830, for 2.00! The regular price was 5.99. I loved it so much I had to take several selfies as you can see.
Is that all Nikki? Of course not! I checked my budget and made room for these other goodies. All of the lipsticks/glosses were 2.00 and the lip glosses were originally 8.99! I love the midnight blue color. Yes, very bold. Well, that’s it for the makeup dumpster dive! I had makeup all over my hands when I finished searching! It was a dirty job, but someone had to do it!
Last week I went to St. Louis for a convention with my mother and some of my family. While my mother and I went to classes and lectures, there was still plenty of time to explore and enjoy some of the things St. Louis had to offer like Sweetie Pies aka The Crust! The day we went Oprah Winfrey’s camera crew was there filming for the show Sweetie Pies that comes on OWN. We had to sign waivers and take pictures. The line was down the block, but it was well worth all of that standing when I got my fried chicken and sweet tea to perfection! LOL!!! I made sure I wore comfortable shoes because I knew it would be a line. We also went shopping at one of the outlets that day. I was beyond tired each day so I never got to unpack my swimsuit and get in the hot tub. My family was really supportive, understanding on this trip and did everything on this trip to make sure I was comfortable (I have Rheumatoid Dis-ease). I also did not overextend myself much. I slept like a log each nite and was refreshed each morning. Oh and I was cute each day in class! I also met some wonderful people I hope to see next year in Oklahoma.
I’ve been to St. Louis many times as a child and a few times as an adult. It was always a rush as an adult. Six flags, zoo, eat, relax at the hotel, go home. But, this conference allowed me to see St. Louis in a different light. There was much more to see and do for a week and I did not feel stressed or rushed. However, I must return for a week without a conference and do much more! I’m an advocate for visiting a place a few times and doing something different each time.
I took a photo of the sunset each nite from my hotel room.
The shoes are by Guess, which I’ve had for sometime, but I purchased them at TJMAXX. The dress is by London Times and my lipstick is Zoe’s Red by L’oreal. I went out to a birthday celebration at IN LOVE’S nightclub here in Memphis, TN. The dj was great. The service and staff was great. The live band, the PC band, was amazing. It was a setting for adults.
Here is a recent picture of my faux locs and my makeup. I wore them like this for New Year’s Eve to a party. This has been my favorite protective style and I have had the most fun with it. The makeup is an Almay i-Color Combination for green eyes! When I saw it I thought forget it! I love those colors and it would do just fine for my brown eyes. Sure enough it did! I am not a makeup professional and barely an amateur. However, I try new things, I take my time, I YouTube and Google and play with my makeup. I like to look fabulous and as quick as possible. Please and Thank You. I used a primer and moisturizer on my face which I discovered by accident gives me a natural glow (see how much I know! LOL). On this particular night I did not use any foundation or bronzer/powder. I do not care for foundation and use it sparingly. I always had a problem with eyeliner staying on and then I discovered gel liner. Liquid liner did not work for me either. Thank you makeup gods! (Makeup remover is great, but I take a Q tip and vaseline to remove eyeliner and mascara (Kleenex or towel)). Oh and the lipstick is some glitter lipstick I should have thrown away years ago! (Honestly). I religiously live by the rules I was taught in my one year modeling school stint…take your makeup off before you go to bed!
Here is the Almay and it was on clearance at Target:
Below I shared a picture of the faux locs when I first got them (no make up).