Excerpts From My Coffee Time /God: Change Your View

How can I do my work without delay or hesitance?

Plan it. Do it. Discipline. Via time with God, I discovered my problem is, my root problem is a lack of confidence that stems from childhood. I was made to feel that nothing I did was good enough or right. None of the choices I made were the best or right per one of my parents. Although I have worked diligently through this there is still residuals of it that seep out in little ways. This is why I always say you will be working on yourself the entire time you are here. How on earth will you find time to fix, correct, and criticize everyone else “if” you are busy working on yourself.

Via God/Spirit: I tell you this; DO IT. Do your work and expect errors. Expect people not to like it or to like you but, you don’t have to be defensive about who and what people like. You don’t like certain people and you don’t like what they are talking about, teaching about, speaking of and the difference is you have learned that you don’t have to voice or write that unless what they are saying is filled with hate. I am not of hate, division, or things of that energy. And even then, you need to know when to speak and when not to.

Via God/Spirit: See mistakes as teachers and tools to help you grow. Ah, you are embarrassed and ashamed when you make mistakes. Yet, you always defend and tell others it’s okay if they make mistakes. You don’t give yourself the same grace and mercy. I know. It was never okay for you to make mistakes. And when you did, boy were you ever ridiculed merciless at times. Give yourself the same grace and mercy you give others. I gave you grace and mercy then, now, and in the future. Release that thinking. Let’s work on that.

~Nikki

Excerpts from My Coffee w/God: Did I Learn Anything?

You don’t have to choose unhappiness just because you are used to choosing unhappiness or being unhappy. -God

God, life, the universe, or whatever you call Source, is teaching and it’s your choice to learn. I learned after all of these years, this year, I don’t have to make a choice that I know will make me unhappy simply because I am used to unhappiness. What am I talking about? I have not been so lucky in the dating arena (but I have definitely been blessed to have dodged some bullets!) and I only realized this year that some of the choices I made were choices that I KNEW would more than likely lead me to unhappiness but, I made those choices anyway.

You know like ignoring your intuition, your gut, the Holy Spirit, the voice in your head. I had more than enough evidence numerous times giving a person a chance or a second chance or third or…years would only lead to more unhappiness. I made those choices in hopes of a better outcome but, with this last relationship, if you can call it that, I was making it out of the habit of being disappointed.

As I look back, I can see where I made the choice out of hope in some of my past relationships and where I made it SUBCONSCIOUSLY out of unhappiness. Sometimes we have been disappointed, unhappy, or things have been delayed for so long we think we are never going to get them. Therefore, we self-sabotage or set ourselves up for failure unknowingly. I was doing this in various ways. I may have stop allowing certain brazing mistreatment but, I was still going against my gut, allowing mild subpar treatment, dragging things out just because I wanted something to be there, I knew CLEARLY was not there but, fearing I would make the wrong decision.

When I heard that statement, “You don’t have to choose unhappiness just because you are used to choosing unhappiness or being unhappy”, it wasn’t a light bulb moment. It was as if a light from heaven, like the sun was turned on.

~Nikki

How To Get Ideas to Flow to You

And because they made decisions, ideas flowed to them. Solutions came to them. Creativity flowed from them. All of this came to them, from Source and sources (like angels, dreams, people, ancestors, etc.) to help them achieve their goals. They are assisted in the manifestation of their dreams and visions and desires BECAUSE THEY MADE A CHOICE.

They are willing to be temporarily uncomfortable to achieve their goals. (Are you willing to be uncomfortable to achieve your goals?). Then make decisions about your life! And refrain from indecision. You belong in the ranks of those that make decisions and those that have learned to make right decisions.

~Nikki

Reference: The Power of Right Decision Making by Charles Raymond Barker

Sunday Morning Coffee Musings: One Mic

Last week was a week for the books. I held my 4th Woman emPowered Up Conference online and according to the numbers, it was a flop. My speakers were top notch. The very last night no one showed up and it was my turn to speak. I recorded the talk and then my daughter came on as I was wrapping it up. The challenge wasn’t remaining satisfied with being obedient and going forth, I didn’t care about the numbers as if I needed numbers to validate me or the conference. If that is the case, then why was I so sadden? Why was I angry?

I didn’t even know I was angry until I did a heart chakra guided meditation and it spoke about being angry. This is when Spirit spoke to me and said you are angry. I knew I was sad but angry? Let me figure out why I was sad first and then I will figure out why I am angry. I continued to do meditation. I did yoga while listening to music for the heart chakra. As I was doing yoga, I got these messages:

  1. You are sad because you wanted people to receive the valuable information you had to give. You wanted more people to share your passion of wisdom and knowledge with. And for this you will be blessed.
  2. You are angry that your family and friends didn’t show up but, you should not be angry with them. You can’t always be there for them, remember? And they can’t always be there for you. Extend to them the same grace and mercy you extend to yourself. Give them the same understanding and compassion.

And so, I did.

~Nikki

Day 6 of Day 12 of My 2021 Journey: Lessons and Reflections

Travel Journal
  • Notes from Orange Beach: I have regrets. I regret inviting my guest.
  • Notes from Orange Beach: Every sunrise and sunset are different and it never gets old.
  • Notes from Orange Beach: Stingrays and their symbology are me. The Stingray spirit animal symbolizes maneuverability. … The Stingray meaning speaks about sensitivity, and the need to blend into your environment create peace and harmony. You don’t always need to react to situations, because sometimes it’s better to step back and not engage.
  • Notes from Orange Beach: I love my family.

~Nikki

Day 5 of Day 12 of My 2021 Journey: Lessons and Reflections

  • Receiving a surprise bouquet of flowers for Valentine’s Day felt amazing
  • Witnessing the death of my oldest brother was devasting and heart wrenching. At that moment what did I feel? I felt that it was over. I felt that it was his will because he was suffering tremendously. Lesson: His will, the will of the person ill, be done and not my will.
  • Grief can severely affect others to the point it becomes unhealthy. It becomes an obsession. It’s best to go to grief counseling if it gets to this point.
  • While we all experience grief in different ways, the burden is easier to carry when you understand death. We are spirits. We are not our bodies.

~Nikki

Me and My Brother Toney

Day 4 of Day 12 of My 2021 Journey: Lessons and Reflections

  • I am only empowered in the NOW. Not in the past or not in the future.
  • Jealousy ruins everything. Including the person, it resides in.
  • People will back wrong doing and support unholiness because it’s family.
  • The actual saying is “the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb”. The meaning of this saying is actually the opposite of the way we use it. The saying actually means that bonds that you’ve made by choice are more important than the people that you are bound to by the water of the womb.

~Nikki

Coffee Cup Cutie by Asiey Barbie

Day 3 of Day 12 of My 2021 Journey: Lessons and Reflections

  • Can’t rush time or growth. It takes time to grow all though you may get the water (lesson) today.
  • Be quiet. Go to or create quiet spaces and just sit there and look intelligent or stupid. Quiet the mind. Be quiet and work. Less responding and more observation.
  • Have a good relationship with the people you say you love. And remember, that relationship doesn’t have to look like other people’s love. They may give more money and you may give more time. They may give better gifts and you may give more thoughtful gifts. They may call every day and you may show up to run errands for them. It doesn’t have to look like their love language. You may have boundaries with that person and others may have none.
  • Noisy, chaotic, toxic, loud, high energy is not a beautiful relationship to me. I like peace. I like calm and I have to that kind of environment. I like spiritual guy. I like a guy with some class and manners. I don’t mind the good ol’ country boy. I just need him to be able to dress up and mix in any environment.

~Nikki

Day 2 of Day 12 of My 2021 Journey: Lessons and Reflections

  • Too much going on in your life can cause a stagnation in creativity. My flow was “damned” up by things happening around me and directly to me. Most of the year I was uninspired.
  • A salt body scrub (lemon, mint, or peppermint) can help you wash away physical connections. A good chakra cleanse or rinse continues the purging of a person and help you break all ties. It can help you get rid of the remnants. Christians have a hard time understanding this but, it’s like fasting or eating certain things to help the body purge. Basically, we are energy and the heart is energy, the mind is energy, etc. When Christians say they felt it in their “spirit” or in the “belly” it’s an energy. You can feel good and negative energy. I don’t care what your religion is.
  • Whomever my twin flame, soul mate is, I know I am loved deeply and eternally.
  • 28 days no contact with a person is a detox. You can jumpstart your healing this way.
  • Keep making room for the RIGHT person until you no longer have to make room for them. In other words, when they show up you won’t have to make room for them. They will fit and you can grow together. Sometimes, at different rates. Oh, well. It’s never going to be perfect but, it darn sure has no resemblance of hell or purgatory.

~Nikki

milky way at dawn and silhouette of a telescope

Day 1 of 12 Days of My 2021 Journey: Lessons and Reflections

For the next twelve days I will be sharing SOME of my many lessons and reflections from 2021. Without further delay, let’s jump right into it.

  • I don’t why I had to go through the agony and the turmoil to become a homeowner but, I did go through it. It was hell. I would have appreciated it even if was easy to get because of the things I went through in some of the rentals. Nevertheless, I am now a homeowner. I really had to dig deep into faith and it wasn’t an unfamiliar process because I’ve had to dig deep into my faith and stand firm in it many times. Here I sit victoriously typing this in my own home.
  • It’s important to have a strong mind. Some naturally have it and the rest of develop it through life’s experience. However, it happens, you really need a strong mind in this life.
  • It’s okay to take a day and feel whatever you are feeling to try to get through it. Understand it.
  • Some conversations and relationships must die. How long, how many years are you going to talk about it or deal with the person? Life is too long for rehashing the past at every holiday dinner, every time you see the person, or when you are in a bad mood because of a bad day. Or just because you THINK of it. And life is too long to drag a person through your whole life that obviously shouldn’t be in your life.

~Nikki