Standing Firm without Stooping

Sunday Morning Musing & Coffee

In YOUR CHOICE of faith (or no choice) & beliefs, I believe you should stand firm in it but, I don’t believe you should attack, demean, insult opposing views. It’s possibly a sign of weakness, biases, a dislike or hate for the topic, other group or the person. Those things cause you to stoop to low blows, lashing and insults.

If you don’t like Christians and you’re having a “discussion” can you be objective or not? If you don’t like Muslims, can you be objective in your discussion? If you don’t like gay people can you be objective in your discussion?  If a person is not vegan can you have a civil discussion?  Or do you become instantly defensive? Do you become an instant jerk? An instant butt hole? Furthermore, you may have a problem if you enjoy being mean and insulting others. You may have a heart problem, a love problem and perhaps you need healing or deliverance. Perhaps, enlightenment.

The only way to stand firm in what you believe WITHOUT STOOPING is to stand firm in LOVE. Stand firm and operate in love with your attitude, your demeanor and your choice of words. If the other person is becoming defensive and offensive in their tone, language or gestures then end the conversation immediately. It’s not going anywhere but downhill from there. The next thing you know you’ll be stooping to their level of nastiness.

For the record, I believe what I believe and that’s pretty much the end of the story. YET, I’m always interested in other viewpoints mainly because I like to know how people think and why they think that way. Plus, I rarely get upset about one not sharing my views because I realize my views are mines and not theirs! You believe what you believe and that’s your story. At the end of the day can we be civil? Can we work together? Can we be kind to one another? Different viewpoints, ideals, religions, cultures, shape the world and make it very interesting. You live here and I live here now let’s do lunch.

When I find myself dealing with a person who wants to argue instead of discuss, or a person who’s decided how they are going to deal with me because of my religion or my opposing views, I JUST DON’T DEAL. 😊

~Nikki

 

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Surrounded by Stones

SOOTHING PEACE OF MIND PICTURES_ August 2015

When I saw the above photograph, it immediately got my attention as I searched for a quote on peace. I looked at it and thought this is how we should operate in the midst of everything that is going on around us. I named each stone as I looked at the picture and said there I am also. Peace in the midst may not be consistent for many of us but, the simple truth that you have it at times lets me know it’s always available.

Self Injection of Truth Serum: The Antidote to Lies

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When I was dating, in and out of relationships, I discovered men lie in the worst ways. Men lie and I believed the lies because well, at first I didn’t have a clue. When you’re young and you have no coaching on what to expect in the dating world, the “games” and how to protect your heart, you’re just out there on your own without sound or solid advice from people you can trust. And you end up hurt, used, and abused. Heartbreaks keep on coming like a bottomless beverage. Until you’ve had enough. Until you wise up. You learn quickly (well, that can be subject to the individual because I didn’t!) but I learned that lies flow easily from the lips of deceitful men to get whatever they want. I learned charm is a spell. Literally. And dangerous in the skilful hands of a liar.
You also learn the FEEL of a lie, the TASTE of a lie, the TOUCH of a lie, the SOUND of a lie, and the LOOK of a lie. But what do many of us do, male and female? We pretend we don’t feel, taste, hear or see any of it. And you know what you’re now doing now??? Lying to yourself.

Truth Serum - Chuck Wiki

If you want to end a brigade of lies brought to your doorstep by others like their delivering roses when they are really dumping manure at your feet, the first step is to admit to the hypocrisy. What!!!??? Yes. The reason others can constantly lie to you is because you lie to you. After some time in the dating world, you FEEL, SEE, HEAR, TASTE, KNOW a lie but you PRETEND you don’t. You talk yourself out of it and around it and you you let it slide. You solicit the counsel of friends and wise ones but if they tell you what you don’t want to hear, you override the truth and go with the lies and excuses you tell yourself. ADDRESS THE HYPOCRISY.

One you prep yourself with the alcohol swab of admitting to hypocrisy, then inject yourself with the TRUTH ABOUT YOU. Oh I know you thought this would be about stopping the lies you allow others to tell you but here is the TRUTH about TRUTH serum, it begins with you. That’s how you know it’s working. Tell yourself the easy truth and the hard cold gut wrenching truth about you, every time, every chance and it won’t be nearly as hard to accept the truth when you are being lied to.

Let me be clear. If you want honesty be honest with yourself even when it is not pretty, not convenient and not what you want to hear. It is what you need. Becoming honest with myself about myself help me to accept the truth about the lies presented to me. It no longer mattered what I wanted, what he looked like, how long we had been together, it was what it was. When you stop pretending with yourself, you’ll stop pretending with others.

~Nikki

“Self truth is the antidote to lies.”-Nicole Jackson

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X marks the Spot

Floral Letter Illustration Typography Print by Makewells

X marks the spot. The spot to the treasure or the spot where something needs to be fixed. Either way, digging has to take place to resolve the problem such as a broken pipe or line or if we are searching for treasure were have to dig one we find the X.
I’ve seen X’s marked on sidewalks, streets and in the grass. I knew the utility people or the construction workers were coming back and the breaking of that concrete or ground would begin.

X marks the spot to  treasures within you and X marks the spot to places in you that need to be fixed or healed shall I say. We have to search and bring both of these things to the light. They both need exposure. Treasures to be used to heal others, to benefit the world and pain to be healed and benefit us by becoming wisdom in which we share to help heal others. Isn’t it something that both treasure and pain are both buried in dark places?

~Nikki

The Sisterhood of WOMANHOOD

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I don’t see how a woman can look at another woman  without making the connection we are all amazing creations (from God). When you see another woman whether she is what one deems to be on top of the world or whether she has the world on top of her, how do I as a woman not feel something. A connection to the pride as well as a connection to the suffering is what women share.

This sisterhood of womanhood is where we share the strengths and suffering, the love and the pain, highs and the lows. You see, we don’t need to look alike. We don’t need to be the same shape, the same race, the same career fields or in the same financial bracket. We just have to be women. We connect from country to country and exceed religion and culture because when you think about it, we have more in common than not. We are women and it’s more than body it is soul.

We go through more of the same things than we do not. We understand what it’s like to want our minds and bodies respected and to not have ANYONE tell us what to do with it. It is OURS. And we can understand this even if that woman is on the other side of the globe, with a different religion, in a different culture. We want the same respect and honor for our hard work whether I’m Caucasian or Chinese. We love our children and want the best for them. We want them to be treated fairly in North America and in Africa. We want to be represented in the many different industries whether I’m a black fashion designer or a fashion designer from Indonesia. You get it? It’s the sisterhood of womanhood. From the painting of toes to the painting of war paint on our face if need be. It’s a bond that should transcends our comfort zone.

~Nikki

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On Your Mark

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Be ye also ready. All you need is that one connection to the right person. As a matter of fact pretend like you have it and be prepared. Perfect your craft. Have your ducks lined up in a row as my mom would say. Imagine what you would say or have your pitch together. You may not even need it. I’ve got one self help book under my belt. I have my first mini novel ready to move by the end of this month. I have already decided to make my first self help book a play and script it. I have what I call the blueprints for other books, plays, movies, short films. And I am working on a business plan for my non-profit. This is my in the meantime.”Stay ready.So you don’t have to get ready”. I have no idea what is going to take off first. 

The truth is I don’t know what I am doing but, I am doing something until I see my steps ordered. I am taking advice and watching other authors. I am reading about their journey for inspiration and clues. I realize writing  and poetry is just one part of who I am. Fashion is also in my blood so I still sketch. I still  want to design because it is my first love. I am learning to sew. The fashion designer in me will never die. Whatever pieces of the puzzle you have to who you are, work a little on putting them together everyday until you get the big picture. 

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