The Shrug to a Culture of Violence


Violence has always been here and it’s not going anywhere. Therefore…oh well. Let’s not do anything to try to curb it. Stop it. Prevent it. Since you can’t stop it ALL let’s not worry about the increasing culture of violence. Since it’s not happening in my neighborhood or city or country…not my problem. “I am not one of the violent ones. I was raised better. I would never do a thing like that.”

Some are neutral because they don’t care. Some are neutral because it hasn’t hit home and I hope it never does for them. Some are neutral because they have become callous to violence being blasted on the news or in the neighborhood.

It you could stop 10 out of 100 crimes it’s better than 0 of 100. If you can change the chances of something happening then that is better than doing nothing. Rarely are laws and solutions 100 proof, but that does not mean we don’t need them nor search for solutions or improvements. Locks on doors don’t stop thieves, yet we still prefer them. I say do all you can on every level. Even the small things matter.



Poetry Confetti: Untitled


The heart wants

The heart needs

The brain taunts

Action proceeds

I’m getting nowhere and I am getting there fast

Nothing comes easy and when he does it doesn’t last

It’s an endless cycle. I hardly can cope

Letting go feels like giving up hope

As I struggle with how to keep hope on a respirator

The light in my heart is being supported by a generator

Love wails

Romance sails

Off into the distance

Against the tears of resistance

~Nikki 3/19/2017



Less Christian, More Christ


Do you represent your denomination more than you do Christ? Do you represent theology and the thoughts of man, rather than the thoughts of Christ? Are you dogmatic in your views..”your” views…YOUR views…instead of looking through the lense of the gospel of Jesus, the Christ?

Do you volunteer to feed the hungry, clothe and shelter the homeless, cry when something terrible occurs to others, but that’s as far as you go? Will you protect them via money or calling your representative about bills that need to be passed or halted? Are you nice to everyone at work, no matter their religion or color, but that’s as far as you go? Will you stand up for their rights if your rights are not affected? Do you really…really see other believers as your brothers and sisters in Christ? Or is that only good for religion and not to stand against injustices or a tyrant of a leader that wants to oppress your “sisters and brothers” of color and different cultures in Christ? What about non believers? God still created them. Are they off the list?

I’d like to see less Christians and more Christ.


Since When vs “SENSE” NOW


Since when did we have to choose one thing and be that one thing or do that one thing forever? Since when did we have to remain “doing” a particular ritual or “being” a particular way, all the while inside we have outgrown it or developed a different perspective? Since when did we stop believing it was okay to try AND fail? You know we tell children that, but we caution adults to stick to sure things. Since when is it not okay to keep learning and evolving? We say never, but laugh at the 60 year old that graduates from college. These things, this evolving, this taking chances, this changing one’s perspective, this doing more than one thing, this coloring outside the lines and erasing lines…since when has it ever been so wrong?


Since parents or guardians tell young children it’s more important to please me, as a parent, than it is to do what makes you happy

Since parents steer children in the careers of their choice and not the child’s. Since they don’t mold the gifts and talents the child has, but the ones they want them to have

Since religion says read this and only this. Do this and only this. Think this and only this. Don’t question the Great One or the Masters. Don’t you dare! Or fear being cut off and exiled…banished forever…you will have no one and you will be shunned by us and your family…shame will make you stay in places where you are spiritually dying. Funny…dying spiritually before you die physically so you can die spiritual.

Since fear.

Since you care too much about what others think.

Since people get upset when you…brace yourself…change….(insert gasp)

Since you want to be liked

Since you will look foolish at your age or going outside family tradition

Since you are afraid your thoughts don’t line up with the majority


Maybe more SENSE NOW than SINCE WHEN


Truthful Tuesdays


Whatever you do, let love be your motivation. In a situation like this, where people have made you want to “get back at them” or retaliate, CHOOSE to move away with love and SHOW YOURSELF how much you LOVE yourself by doing what you came here to do or by letting them go. You don’t have to show anyone anything except yourself. You don’t have to show the Creator what the Creator already knows you can do. Don’t let humiliation be your fire extinguisher. Let love and strength be your fire.


Kim K the Human Being


I know you have heard in recent news that Kim Kardashian was robbed in Paris, tied up, and locked in the bathroom. The media is now saying the robbers probably tracked her movements as she documented them on social media or perhaps it was an inside job.

Let’s first get something clear: I am one of the few that may be neutral when it come to Kim K. I don’t love or hate her or the Kardashians. Honestly, I am pretty neutral about most people in general. And maybe there are some people I just don’t like because of their behavior or character or personality. You know, some people just rub you the wrong way and well you have to deal with. But, that does not mean I dislike them enough to not care or rejoice if something terrible happens to them or to not help them if I could. Trust me, if we are all in a tragedy, no one is deciding who to rescue based on wealth, race, sexual preference or religion. I hope not.

Some were saying the robbery was a publicity stunt. I understand why they would say this because when you and I do mean anyone, do things to get attention from the media, people tend to think everything that you say and do is for attention. They can’t decipher the difference. Positive or negative. Perhaps that is a lesson we all can learn from.

After, it was found to be true, some were like so what. Who cares. That is what she gets. And now it is being said she posted her jewelry and whereabouts on social media, people are saying it’s her fault. She shouldn’t have done that.

Here is my perspective: If you strip away her wealth, her beauty, her name, her designer clothes and she was just a woman married to a black guy with two children would you think those things? Perhaps, the only thing you would have thought was she should not have posted her every move or jewelry, money. And even in that truth, it doesn’t give evil the right to take what she has. In a sense, if a candy shop advertises candy, it doesn’t give a thief the right to steal it. Gee, they should have put that candy away. Many times people that are in your own neighborhood or will come to you neighborhood looking to do harm. I don’t have 1% of Kim’s wealth…wait, .5% of her wealth, and my home was broken into twice and I felt fear, anger, sadness and it took away my peace of mind for a very long time. I thought to myself, thank God my daughter and I were not there. My child had to sleep in my room for almost a month. Every time I heard a noise I got up. I dreamed about someone breaking it over and over. When I moved to the new place I was still afraid. The second time my home was invaded, I knew for sure that it was a neighbor.

I don’t ever want to be robbed with a gun to my head, begging for my life, tied up and left in a bathroom, closet, field, wherever. I can feel fear rising in me at just the thought of never seeing my daughter and family again. So, I say all of this to say, you haven’t reached the spiritual maturity to see a human being more like you in that sense and separate what they do, their wealth or lack of, their political preferences, gender, sex, race etc…from that. Fear is fear no matter who is experiencing. Wealth doesn’t make you fearless. A scary experience or life threatening experience is not less scary or life threatening if your last name is Kennedy or Doe.Wealthy tears aren’t less salty than a man on the street who has lost everything tears. I don’t wish anyone to have to learn a lesson in such a way their life is put in danger.