I find it to be the coordination of the Universe as to why I didn’t blog early this morning with my letter R. I had no idea what to write but, as I heard the news hours ago my beloved “Prince” Roger Nelson has elevated to a higher dimension. My favorite Gemini ♊ on the planet.
You had to have some level of consciousness and uniqueness about yourself to be able to identify with him. Fans usually identify with something about the one they are FANATIC about. Otherwise, you simply like the artist. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that!
There are musicians, singers, entertainers and artists. Rarely do you get those things all in one person. I think Prince was that. He had a wonderful habit of DOING HIS OWN THING and MINDING HIS BUSINESS. He’s a musical and lyrical genius. I’m still trying to decipher Starfish & Coffee (one of my favorite songs). He could vividly tell a story while singing. He didn’t care what they said about him or hope he dressed and the crazier the better…a little give them something to talk about. It’s called being true to yourself. It’s called wild and rebellious and then you grow up but you keep your uniqueness. You never part with your creativity. There was no formula he needed to make a hit. He did his own thing while many were doing the same thing. How do you keep up with the times, never change but change and be ahead of your time? It’s what ICONS do. It’s what makes them icons.
It’s the confidence that comes effortlessly when you forget about who you’re programmed to be and just be. He was of small statute but mind-bogglingly gifted as an artist. He did rock and roll, rhythm and blues, pop, funk, hip hop, soul, and filtered in some gospel. He was like a gumbo. He even gave us sounds we didn’t know what to do with except accept it as a token of his love for what he came here to do.
I like that he never felt the NEED or the pressure to explain himself. He only talked when he wanted to, to who he wanted to talk to and when he felt some sort of injustice needed to be verbally addressed. He didn’t go back and forth with other artists that I know of. He was very private. So many artist should have taken and should take a page out his book when it comes to media relations.
His music is so much apart of my LIFE SOUNDTRACK and memories I was certainly not ready for this impromptu performance of departure. It was a quiet song. His departure to the next flight ✈ was undetected. Like he was. He always seem to come out of nowhere with great music and disappear.
He left us in his home, in the studio. In his studio. There’s peace ✌ when you can say goodbye in there mist of doing what you love 💜
Quiet. The city rain waters down the hustle and bustle of city life
Hush. I’ll silence the never ending to do list and lower the notch of the hype
I’ll wash the leaves of trees so you’ll notice they’re alive and thriving
As you rip and run merely surviving
I’ll soak the earth to soak your feet
Reminding you to remember me
Slow down. Pay attention to the NOW time
As the rain drops tap the pavement and ease your mind
I’ve been chatting all day and well into the evening
After midnight I’ll be leaving
But not before I tell you a bedtime story while resting on your window seal
About how all your dreams can come true and how wounds can be healed
Quiet now Dear, The City Rain Speaks of peace.
-Nikki aka F.Y.E the Poetess
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“I’d never punish my child “like that”. I’d never allow my child to eat candy. I wouldn’t allow my child to wear that. I can’t believe she let her teen die her hair purple.”
There may be extreme circumstances but, this blog is not about that. This blog is about Parents shaming other Parents for the choices they make for “their” children and then tossing them into BAD PARENT JAIL… FOREVER. Just because you wouldn’t do it or you were not taught/raised that way doesn’t mean you’re a better parent or the way you were raised was better then another person. It simply confirms the that:
EVERYONE’S CHILDHOOD IS DIFFERENT and that plays a role in how we raise our own children.
We all have DIFFERENT philosophies on parenting.
Our personalities play a role in parenting. We have different personalities.
Different life experiences play a role in parenting.
I’m not sure because a parent let their child wear a Mohawk the parent is a bad parent or lacks good judgement simply because it’s something I’d never do. Do they have a good relationship with their child? Is the child loved and cared for? Fed? Doing well in school? Has morals and values? (those are subjective too based on many things including culture and religious views).
I was only wondering, since there is no handbook to parenting, if we could be more supportive of other parents in general. Especially when they make mistakes. After all, there are no perfect parents… Not even you.
I don’t think it has much to do with my zodiac sign Pisces ♓ but more so the peace that the ocean brings. It’s the crashing of the waves onto shore that seems to lull you to sleep at night. It’s the rolling, the motion of the tides that seem to come up to your toes and kiss them and playfully run away. It’s a pleasurable game.
When you attempt to take in its vastness and imagine its depth you are overwhelmed with awe. You start to think of the stories it could yield.
It’s the way it says good morning with sparkles in the water like diamonds floating on top as the sun rises. It’s the way it says goodnight in concert with the sunset.
I don’t know what it is about the smell, the sound, and the motion of the ocean but…I like it.
This N is for YOU. NEVER STOP LOVING YOURSELF THROUGH THE JOURNEY OF THIS LIFE. I’ll tell you it has its mountains and valleys. It has its deep curves. You’ll run off the road into ditches. You’ll fall off cliffs but YOU WILL (and many times surprisingly) SURVIVE! Sometimes you won’t know what hit you but, when you come through you’ll begin to remember who you are. So NEVER stop loving yourself through the journey. No one is expecting you to be perfect even if the no one was someone that told you to be perfect. They misunderstood so charge it to their heads (logic) and not their hearts(spirit). Bless their hearts ♥… We are not here to be perfect.
I say NEVER stop loving yourself through this journey because I’ve done that. I’ve not forgiven myself for my mistakes, what I thought were EPIC failures and all of the imperfections I struggle with. When you can’t forgive yourself you can’t fully love yourself. You’ll hold yourself back with guilt but, it’s not okay to ignore these areas either which many people do. Ignoring your mistakes, your failures and imperfections creates an illusion of perfectionism. Those are the lofty self righteous people. And the ones that boast are the ones that never address their errors and keep on hurting themselves and others. They lack the courage to face their mistakes, failures or imperfections. And change for us all can be daunting because it requires the admittance that we did something wrong and heavens forbid we realize we are not perfect! Plus change is work!
But you, you’re not them. You just want to get it right. But, if you stop loving yourself as you go through this life with unforgiveness for yourself, it’s going to be one hell of a journey. Unforgiveness for yourself is like stacking another backpack 🎒 on your other backpacks for this journey. Who needs that? Mistakes are lessons. Failures are opportunities to learn. Imperfections… Some can be fixed, some have to be accepted, others will be worked on until you leave here. Whew…. What a relief!
Once I got that revelation I could work on forgiving myself along the way in this journey. Forgiveness is sometimes quick and sometimes a tedious long drawn out process. But putting one foot in front of the other means you’re still moving forward.
Pain management? Like, what do you do? Give your pain a schedule? Tell it to stop? I’d like to see that happen!
The truth is I have never been to pain management classes and the truth is there are those of us who suffer from chronic pain that could benefit from it because another truth is…not everyone is good at managing pain.
In the beginning diagnoses of your illness you are learning and sometimes it takes a few years to match a method to the madness. There will never be a perfect method but, it can help tremendously to be armed with the knowledge and tools. Imagine being stranded…wouldn’t it be better to at least have the blanket, the extra water, the cellphone and to have watched a couple of episodes of Survivor (or know some MacGyver tricks…old old old show) or maybe a bottle of Frank’s Hot sauce since they “Put that — on everything!”
(Yeah that’ll fix your lupus!)
I learned through trial and error, research, listening to my body, intuition and knowledge of my illnesses/dis-ease how to manage it to the best of my ability. It’s about what works for you.
- It’s about knowing and understanding as much as you can about your illness or dis-ease. I had a difficult time reading about Rheumatoid Arthritis, Fibromyalgia and Osteoarthritis because I am very sensitive and after 5 years I am still accepting it. You need to know what you are dealing with.
- Be prepared for EVERYTHING and EVERYWHERE because most of our symptoms are UNPREDICTABLE and PREDICTABLE based on your body and schedule. I know if I am going to drive to a few places I have my gloves, I do hand exercises to keep my joints loose. I know if I am going to be the passenger to get out and stretch every chance I get! Take your hot/cold water thingy. I take mines everywhere. Especially if I am going to be at family functions, long rides and trips. (Beats dragging a heating pad and these are cute)
- Have your meds with you. Have extra pain meds until you can get back home. I have to take a Benadryl in my med pack because I never know if I will have a itching flare and that would be so embarrassing to me! (I’m a fashion diva and you can purchase cute pill boxes. I was never comfortable whipping out bottles or a big strip that may as well came with a neon sign reading SHE’S TAKING HER MEDS!!!!)
- Know your triggers. Is it a certain food? Is it after you exercise? Is it a certain person?Is it after a meeting at work you know is going to be stressful and drama filled? Is is the Wednesday soccer practice, football practice, dinner, get everyone to bed on time?
- I hear my body saying “Wow! You have how many things to do today?” or “I am tired. Can we go home now? Can we stop now?” and if you must push through be prepared. Get your hot soak ready, your cold pack, your hot pack, your pillows, is everything withing arms reach by your bedside?
- And say NO! No I can’t do that. No that is too much. No I will not push myself today. No it can wait.
I hope this helps you! ❤ < 3 Much love and less pain
Kobe Bryant. What is it that I really like about Kobe? It’s what I call the Mamba Drive.
Sure I thought I could never love another after Magic Johnson retired. Nobody could take his place! But, then I saw this art in the making. I begin to make room in my purple and gold heart for this…”Kobe.” Before we knew what “it” was we knew “it” was something that could not be denied. It was called arrogance but, I called it youth. It was called cockiness but, I called it confidence. It was called selfishness but, I called it trying to fill the shoes he was given. Was it those things at times? Sure. We watched Kobe grow and mature. But, what I have come to realize is those things displayed at the moment he made the shot or scored all of those points was simply the way HARD WORK in the DARK manifested on the court (LIFE). It was the pay off of the gift executed by hard work. He took his gift seriously. He never took it for granted. He never played it shy either. I like that.
It’s the tirelessness. It’s the practice over and over and over again. It’s the work he put in on his own time. He said “He was born for it (basketball).” It’s the comeback kid in him. It’s the leave it all on the court…simply relentless. It’s the learning how to lead and letting your teammates shine. It’s the becoming of WE without giving up the ME. It’s the let them talk about me but, I will not say I am not GREAT so they can feel comfortable. I worked hard to be GREAT. It’s the I came to work TO WORK now stop talking because we are on the clock. It’s the MAMBA DRIVE. THE MAMBA DRIVE produces a MAMBA ZONE. That is what you saw on the court. That is what you see in life. You see a person that won’t give up and then you them in a zone.
The MAMBA DRIVE is created through perseverance. You earn the right to say I KNOW I AM GOOD AT THIS because I work hard to be the BEST at this. I study every angle. I come to dominate. I came here to be competitive in my calling and yes…to talk a little trash along the way. The MAMBA DRIVE doesn’t give up or in. It disregards what others have to say because the MAMBA DRIVE demands a close relationship with self. You know your own voice. It is the voice you listen to all the time. Make this move. Go that way. You got a little more left in you. You’re tired? Your opponent is not tired. Lead. Rest. Don’t stop. Don’t quit. Don’t look at the score board. Don’t listen to the critics. Listen to me. The MAMBA DRIVE.