Caged Bird

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The bird cage is open…SET YOURSELF FREE. I know you’ve been locked up in the cage of self pity, hatred, self loathing, sadness, depression, people pleasing, fix everything and everybody, debt, dead end job, fake/bad relationship, fear, etc etc….The door to the cage was never locked! It’s a mind game. SET YOURSELF FREE. You don’t even sing anymore. SET YOURSELF FREE. You don’t even fly anymore. But just because you don’t doesn’t mean you can’t. Choose to SING Choose to FLY.

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Monday Morning Week POW WOW

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Monday Morning WEEK POW WOW
It’s a productive week and the atmosphere is conducive for miracles & favor
I stand firm in my beliefs without stooping to low level energies
I choose peace to keep my creative ideas flowing
I feed my body good food and exercise
I operate in possibilities
I give my time and energy to worthy recipients
Money & Promotion is attracted to me like a magnet

Standing Firm without Stooping

Sunday Morning Musing & Coffee

In YOUR CHOICE of faith (or no choice) & beliefs, I believe you should stand firm in it but, I don’t believe you should attack, demean, insult opposing views. It’s possibly a sign of weakness, biases, a dislike or hate for the topic, other group or the person. Those things cause you to stoop to low blows, lashing and insults.

If you don’t like Christians and you’re having a “discussion” can you be objective or not? If you don’t like Muslims, can you be objective in your discussion? If you don’t like gay people can you be objective in your discussion?  If a person is not vegan can you have a civil discussion?  Or do you become instantly defensive? Do you become an instant jerk? An instant butt hole? Furthermore, you may have a problem if you enjoy being mean and insulting others. You may have a heart problem, a love problem and perhaps you need healing or deliverance. Perhaps, enlightenment.

The only way to stand firm in what you believe WITHOUT STOOPING is to stand firm in LOVE. Stand firm and operate in love with your attitude, your demeanor and your choice of words. If the other person is becoming defensive and offensive in their tone, language or gestures then end the conversation immediately. It’s not going anywhere but downhill from there. The next thing you know you’ll be stooping to their level of nastiness.

For the record, I believe what I believe and that’s pretty much the end of the story. YET, I’m always interested in other viewpoints mainly because I like to know how people think and why they think that way. Plus, I rarely get upset about one not sharing my views because I realize my views are mines and not theirs! You believe what you believe and that’s your story. At the end of the day can we be civil? Can we work together? Can we be kind to one another? Different viewpoints, ideals, religions, cultures, shape the world and make it very interesting. You live here and I live here now let’s do lunch.

When I find myself dealing with a person who wants to argue instead of discuss, or a person who’s decided how they are going to deal with me because of my religion or my opposing views, I JUST DON’T DEAL. 😊

~Nikki

 

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Surrounded by Stones

SOOTHING PEACE OF MIND PICTURES_ August 2015

When I saw the above photograph, it immediately got my attention as I searched for a quote on peace. I looked at it and thought this is how we should operate in the midst of everything that is going on around us. I named each stone as I looked at the picture and said there I am also. Peace in the midst may not be consistent for many of us but, the simple truth that you have it at times lets me know it’s always available.

Self Injection of Truth Serum: The Antidote to Lies

The Divergent Series #nsurgent Movie review! We have lots of thoughts ___

When I was dating, in and out of relationships, I discovered men lie in the worst ways. Men lie and I believed the lies because well, at first I didn’t have a clue. When you’re young and you have no coaching on what to expect in the dating world, the “games” and how to protect your heart, you’re just out there on your own without sound or solid advice from people you can trust. And you end up hurt, used, and abused. Heartbreaks keep on coming like a bottomless beverage. Until you’ve had enough. Until you wise up. You learn quickly (well, that can be subject to the individual because I didn’t!) but I learned that lies flow easily from the lips of deceitful men to get whatever they want. I learned charm is a spell. Literally. And dangerous in the skilful hands of a liar.
You also learn the FEEL of a lie, the TASTE of a lie, the TOUCH of a lie, the SOUND of a lie, and the LOOK of a lie. But what do many of us do, male and female? We pretend we don’t feel, taste, hear or see any of it. And you know what you’re now doing now??? Lying to yourself.

Truth Serum - Chuck Wiki

If you want to end a brigade of lies brought to your doorstep by others like their delivering roses when they are really dumping manure at your feet, the first step is to admit to the hypocrisy. What!!!??? Yes. The reason others can constantly lie to you is because you lie to you. After some time in the dating world, you FEEL, SEE, HEAR, TASTE, KNOW a lie but you PRETEND you don’t. You talk yourself out of it and around it and you you let it slide. You solicit the counsel of friends and wise ones but if they tell you what you don’t want to hear, you override the truth and go with the lies and excuses you tell yourself. ADDRESS THE HYPOCRISY.

One you prep yourself with the alcohol swab of admitting to hypocrisy, then inject yourself with the TRUTH ABOUT YOU. Oh I know you thought this would be about stopping the lies you allow others to tell you but here is the TRUTH about TRUTH serum, it begins with you. That’s how you know it’s working. Tell yourself the easy truth and the hard cold gut wrenching truth about you, every time, every chance and it won’t be nearly as hard to accept the truth when you are being lied to.

Let me be clear. If you want honesty be honest with yourself even when it is not pretty, not convenient and not what you want to hear. It is what you need. Becoming honest with myself about myself help me to accept the truth about the lies presented to me. It no longer mattered what I wanted, what he looked like, how long we had been together, it was what it was. When you stop pretending with yourself, you’ll stop pretending with others.

~Nikki

“Self truth is the antidote to lies.”-Nicole Jackson

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Triggers are Traps

Bible Verses on Change- Romans 12_2- Renewing Your Mind _ Darrell ___

I know you’ve heard it before. Change in behavior only comes when you change your mind about the behavior. It takes 21 days to develop a new habit. All of that is true but, 21 days won’t become forever until the mind has been transformed and it will not come easy. That is where I believe we get stuck. When the going gets tough. What do we do when we are trying to break a habit when the going gets tough? Do we push through or give up and go back to our old ways?

I think one of the keys to changing bad habits is to know what triggers the bad habit and to have a plan in place for when those triggers go off. In other words, being prepared. It takes practice to connect the triggers and saying to yourself okay, I SEE that THIS  is happening, what do I do next? Do I grab my cigarettes? Do I reach for ice cream and lose myself in it? Do I scream and curse? If you don’t know what to do next you do what is familiar.

So often when we plan to change we don’t have safety nets out there to catch us or help us not to fall back into the trap of old ways and habits. In the process of renewing the habits of the mind, we need more than a mantra, we need a detailed plan. Hopefully, this will help us the next time we are in the middle of change and life pulls a trigger we can recognize it and disarm it with a new response. And perhaps our new response will become our new way of dealing with triggers and rid them null and void once and for all.

~NikkiChanges picture quotes - Life changing sayings with image - Change ___

 

RA,Quilts & Granny

 

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I’ve discovered I need different types of blankets depending on how I feel. I can’t explain it. I have a thin spread, as my mother would call it on my bed, a chenille blanket for downstairs because it’s always cooler downstairs, a thick fuzzy blanket to go on top of the thin “spread” if it’s not doing it’s job and what I now need is a quilt.
Yesterday I suddenly became ill while visiting my parents. It’s warm here but I was freezing. They turned the air off gave me a blanket and I still couldn’t get warm.
Then my mom brought a quilt my granny made. I fell asleep right away. Now I would like to have a quilt my granny made or when I finish my sewing classes, I’d like to take the ones she had left undone and finish them. It’s the one thing I wish I would have learned to do from her before she passed away or as I say, transformed (from the physical body to the spiritual body). I dreamed she was showing me yesterday evening as I slept. Now, I really believe I can do it. Even if it will be a challenge with my RA.

 

~Nikki